Happy Father's Day

I know we celebrate our fathers everyday but today I want to specially thank my fathers (biological and spiritual). 

To my father on this Father's Day 

My father, my hero

Always ready to listen

Patient to a fault 

Loving like no other

I love you

You are more than a father

My google map 

For your directions are right

My safe haven

Away from heart ache and troubles

I will never forget

running into your arms

And hearing those words

"My beautiful"

Always and forever my love

A hundred thousand miles apart 

But you're still close by

Your ways are in me

I still hear his voice 

Directing me 

I cry, you cry

I laugh, you laugh

For all you want is 

to see me happy 

I love you

I still feel your hand of discipline 

I can still hear your voice of rebuke 

When I misbehave 

But your warm embrace

Is the best of it all

My father, 

May God bless you for me

May God guide your way

And keep you

My father, I love you...

Happy Father's Day to every father out there. We love you!!! 

How to Make Your Resolutions Stick

       It has been over two weeks into the new year and I bet some people have already forgotten their New Years resolutions. Those who already forgot are mainly in these categories: 

- they wanted to join the conversation about the trending topic #newyearsresolution

- they wanted to tell the world about their new plans

- they want to change but ...

       Forgetting is very easy but we can remembering our plans even more easier. If you really want to make your New Years resolution stick through out the year, here are some fun ways to go about it.

Make it a Picture

        You know how we take pictures of our loved ones or of ourselves, print it out, put it in a frame and keep on our desk or beside our bed? You can do the same to your New Year resolutions. Write it down on a paper (colorful paper will work just fine), take a picture of it, print it out and put in a picture frame. You can put the paper inside a picture frame without taking a picture and printing it or even more better, use Microsoft word with a nice font style. Put the frame were you can see it when you walk in and out of the house everyday, that way you know you have something important you have to accomplish before the year runs out. 

Make it a Business Card 

        Business cards are beautiful, fun and easy to handle. You can make one using a cardboard paper or any thick paper, write your plans on it and put it in your wallet. Anytime you open your wallet you get a reminded of what you have to accomplish this year. 

Make it a Poster

         If you are an artist or you just love hanging things on your wall, you will love this one. Get an A5 paper, write your New Years resolutions and draw some designs on it. Put  it anywhere in your room. It will remind you of your years plan and also  add colour to your room. 

However you choose to remember your resolutions, faith, hope and prayer are great motivators and will go a long way in bringing your goals to life.

Let me know other ways you use to remember your new year's resolutions. Have a great week.

Making New Year Resolutions

I don't know what it is that make people feel they have to change every new year. Every 1st of January people start hearing and saying things like NEW YEAR RESOLUTION, New year, new me or new life or something else (help me out hear people). 

I don't mean to say it's a bad thing, NO, it is very good to make list of things we want to change and things we want to incorporate in our lives. The problem is out of 365 (+/-1) days in a year, we use only one or two days/weeks to deliberate on our New Year's plan. Most people go as far as writing it down (which is good), others  just say or post it on their social media pages on the 1st of January. 

If you want to make a plan, find a way to stick or don't make the plan at all. If you want to change, change! Telling the whole world you want to change won't make you change. 

What are some changes you want to make this new year? How would you be making this change?

Celebrating Nigeria at 55

Celebration mean different things to different people. To some people it means coming together as a family, singing, dancing and to others it means freedom, a means of thanksgiving, a medium of reflection of the past and a mirror into the future.

Today, celebration to Nigerians all over the world has a similar meaning: FREEDOM. Freedom from one political party always ruling, freedom from polio, and from Ebola to say the least.

We celebrate our freedom, we celebrate our lives, our choices, our Greenlands, our diversities, and our cultures. We have so many things to be thankful for, but let us not forget in our celebration, those that are poor and those that have lost everything because of Boko Haram. Those that lost someone because of the Ebola virus and other deadly diseases. Let us not forget those that cannot join us in our celebration today because of pain and sickness. 

Today we celebrate Nigeria, a blessed nation with beautiful people. We have almost everything you can think of. Please let's not think mainly about the negative things happening around us, let us dwell on the positive things that makes our lives worth living.

Long live the president 

Long live the Federal Republic of Nigeria 

Happy Independence Day NIGERIA!!!

Change is always Constant

Change is one thing that remains constant in our life but change keeps changing. It can be gradual or sudden. It can happen in a matter of seconds or it could take months or even years.

It can be a gradual and continuous process. People say things like "when did you start becoming this way and that way, when did you start liking that song and when did that become your favourite colour " this is because change happens gradually until it becomes something significant that people around us start noticing. Many times we don't know we are changing until it is brought to our attention by people around us. 

Change is terrifying, to ourselves and others around us. We fear that we will  become something we said we wouldn't be and sometimes we fear that we are becoming someone better than we use to be. We fear because we are loosing friends, we fear because we are becoming less focused, we are loosing important things and important people that matter.

Change is uncomfortable, it can be tedious if people pleasing is your thing as it makes you think of what people will say about you and how people will look at you when you walk pass them. 

Change can choose for you. When there is change, people tend to leave but the good ones stick around not minding if the change is good or bad. Your friends will either stay or leave depending on the kind of Change you make and the kind of people they are. 

Instead of being scared of change, become aware of it. If brought to your attention about a recent change in your life; positive or negative, take time to weigh its benefits and costs to you first because you are the most important person in your life.

Change should not stop you from been a better person or a person worthy of love so quit been terrified of change and Change for good. 

People change for different reasons; love, anger, anxiety, boredom and so on. What is your reason for changing? 

It's your world

The world is yours for the taking

I guess we have all heard this saying

“When life gives you lemons, you can either complain about it or make lemonade”

Sometimes, how we see things determine how high we rise up. When life fucks you, just change position and enjoy it.

Each time you fail at something,

You should see it as an opportunity to learn another way of reaching your goal

You are not a failure until you stop trying

Repeat that task not until you get it right

But until it becomes impossible for you to get it wrong

In life, sometimes we stumble, other times we fall

Yet we need to find the courage to rise up after each fall

We need the strength to go farther after every hindrance

We never realize how good we have it until we meet other people who have had it worse

All we need is a conviction and a goal, we are trying to attain

Its not every time you would have someone who would give you a pat on the back

Most times, no one would encourage you

At such times, pat your self on the back

Encourage yourself

Rise up when you fall

You need to realize that

The world needs you

The world is watching and waiting for your ingenuity

Be the best you can be

In the words of Mahatma Gandhi

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be.

If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing,

it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it.

On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it,

I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”

The world is yours for the taking

Only if you do not give up on your dreams and aspirations.

Oluwalonimi, Brenda (c) 2015

Judgement

Why do we judge people for doing whatever it is they have done? 

Check this out:

Sammy and Glen took a piece of cake from company's fridge but Glen was caught and Guess what Sammy said, he said and I quote "I am disgusted by Glen's action, how could he do such a thing".

What a life we all live. Just because we were not caught doing it and nobody have put our faces on social media with some bad trending stories doesn't make us saints. It just gives us second chances, gives us time to change, time to become a new and better person. 

You have no right to judge anyone because you are just as guilty as they are. We try to say put ourselves in their shoes but it doesn't always work like that because when it's ur turn, you won't behave just as you have imagined.

We give advice to people but hardly take those advices for ourselves. I'm not trying to give an advice, just letting you know that Live is easier said than done.